Planned or not, parents know a lot more about what to expect when their second child is born. After all, you did alright with the first one, right? So you know you'll eventually sleep again, someday they'll stop crying and that either breast or bottle will nourish them. You may not believe it, but you are capable of loving another being as much as you love your first - it's amazing.
What's not amazing are some of the surprises.
Motherlode shared two stories on October 5, 2009 - one tragic and one ridiculous - about mothers solutions for temporary child care.
So many parents struggle with how to job search while providing responsible care for their children. In California, childcare easily runs over $1500 per month for an infant - an expense that is out of reach for many families where both parents incomes (if there are two parents involved) are required to support the family.
Every parent has some script surrounding the close, lifelong relationships that they'd like their children to have. Maybe you have one - my sister has two friends that she's known since she was three and they are still close more than 30 years later. I have one friend I've known from birth.
There's a familiarity and comfort in long term friendships.